Seeking a Dominatrix for Couples?

What seeing a couple’s dominatrix can do for your BDSM journey

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I love the fact that BDSM, fetish, and kink are becoming more and more mainstream. Being “kinky” is no longer something shameful to live out only in the shadows and secrets, but evolving into something to be enjoyed and even celebrated. This change has had a positive influence on my business, where I once saw individuals who wished to hide this part of their lives from their partners, and now I see the same people wanting to open up and share their desires. Unsurprisingly, after a bit of unpacking, finding that kink is not a “mean” thing to inflict upon one’s partner, but a mutual experience to be enjoyed–almost all the novices jumped on board.

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Why would you and your partner explore BDSM?

Sexuality is not just for procreation–not at all. I would dare say the primary focus of sexual relations is a ritual of bonding. Until recently, psychology has regarded BDSM negatively, and popular culture has been even worse. I am a firm believer that our awareness of neurodivergent needs and acceptance of BDSM are aligned.

After shedding the stigma of BDSM being a perverse and deviant (in a negative way) thing, you can see how it can be a holistic practice, creating a healthy dynamic between you and your partner.

♥ Communications focused
A healthy BDSM dynamic is communication-forward. No one gets it right the first time, but it is a fantastic exercise in verbalizing one’s feelings and then creating concrete actions. Outside of the benefits of playing, couples strengthen their communication. With such honesty required when negotiating a scene, it becomes a positive habit.

Kink has a broad palette of sensations and emotions, and, naturally, not all of them, probably most of them, won’t work for you, but some will. You will have to discuss openly what excites you and what leaves you cold. Maybe spanking seems silly to you, but intense nipple sensations excite you, or perhaps the other way around.

Also, and I cannot stress this enough, consent is the difference between kink and abuse. There is no such thing as “surprise BDSM.” That’s abuse. It’s possible to negotiate spontaneous possibilities, but they are still negotiated beforehand. Yes, if you want to explore the exciting realm of kink, you will have to up your communication level.

♥ Vulnerability in games
A significant part of connection and mutual growth is being vulnerable. It’s a very special bond when one person can turn off all defenses and truly let go of the constraints of the day. We all need these moments to let our guards down, but trust is rightfully given only to the select few.

Kinky games open up pathways to vulnerability in role-play, rituals, games, and stimulation.

♥ Heightened sexual satisfaction
And that is what we are all really here for, aren’t we? Improved sexual health is physical, but primarily mental and emotional. Exposition of kink is ultimately an exploration of what feels good. What words and sensations feel exciting to you? What actions feel exciting to your partner? How do both of you feel when engaging with each other?

A kinky scene can be but one moment, but the anticipation before and lingering memories create an ongoing arousal that transcends the physical.

♥ Mutual appreciation
I encourage couples to experience both dominance and submission. Naturally, one will gravitate towards dominance or submission. We can only hope one prefers dominance while the other prefers submission, but that’s not always the case. Still, we can progress in kink through switching and mutual appreciation.

There is difficult emotional work and vulnerability on both sides that may not be experienced if you relegate yourself to a single role. Putting yourself in your significant other’s place helps you understand what they bring to the table in kink and in life.

♥ Stronger bonding
While the world may be opening up to BDSM in general, it is still an adventure you take together. It is much more pleasurable to share a naughty secret.

♥ More confidence
A delightful side effect of kink exploration is that both participants experience a boost in self-confidence. Often, this arises from new competencies and from having one’s desires and needs recognized. The dominant partner might feel emboldened by seeing the positive reactions from taking control. The submissive partner might feel safe and supported as they navigate the world outside your playtime.

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Why see a dominatrix for couples?

Adult movies and erotic books are wonderful and abundant inspiration, meant to titillate and inspire. It is, however, very different to bring these ideas into real space and often so impractical or frustrating that you lose the mood to play at all. Some pitfalls make novices believe they just “aren’t good at kink.”

Professional dominatrices who work with couples and people over the years have the tools and knowledge to bring these fantasies to life.

You don’t have to go it alone to learn and explore BDSM. Still, you can protect your privacy by seeing a professional dominatrix for couples who also respects appropriate boundaries.

Why see Domina M?

With my years of experience, I understand the psychology of many different fantasies. There are often simpler ways to get where you want to go. For example, I know an elaborate latex gown with latex stockings, gloves, and buckle boots all look amazing, but can sometimes take hours to achieve. Perhaps you need to start with a simple zip-up play suit and give yourself some space to grow and evolve in kink.

Interpreting fantasies
Understanding someone who is trying to explain their BDSM fantasies is a skill I have acquired in my three decades of playing. Most people who come to see me have never even spoken these desires out loud. I approach these conversations with compassion and without judgment, and have been rewarded with knowledge of interpretation.

If you agree with me that communication is the foundation of a fun and healthy kink dynamic, I am the couple’s dominatrix for you.

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Make seeing a couple’s dominatrix a part of your Paris romantic adventure.

Paris is the city of romance. You can walk down the Champs-Élysées, view the city from the top of the Eiffel Tower, and dine in the best restaurants in the world. Of course, one can find many swingers clubs and a few BDSM clubs or parties. Perhaps being so public in your exploration is not something you are ready to experience. Take your romance to the next level with me or privatize my BDSM dungeon in the heart of Paris for yourself.

BE AWARE!

It is fundamental to know that a kinky couple’s session DOES NOT make a good surprise for your partner. I will insist on speaking to all individuals involved, outside the dom/sub mindset, to obtain explicit consent and to have a proper discussion about expectations. It is unimportant to me how many times or how adamantly you and your partner have discussed seeing a dominatrix. I will not agree until I have spoken to everyone individually.

At what level are you ready to explore with a couple’s dominatrix?

SCENARIOS SEEING A DOMINATRIX FOR COUPLES

♥ Communication and technique coaching
If you are still in the negotiation stage and not quite ready to play, that’s more than fine. Setting happy, healthy boundaries and having conversations about needs and expectations fosters deeper connections. Find the best ways to communicate your kink to your partner and how to fulfill everyone’s needs and desires.

If you are in the early stages of your explorations, this will help you set a solid foundation.

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♥ Sub and Voyer Play session
Perhaps one of you is experienced, and the other is not sure. Perhaps one of you wants to relax and be the watcher for once. This may work for you as a half-step after coaching, or just be a pleasurable experience in and of itself.

Before starting a play scene, I will speak with each person to make sure they are comfortable with all activities and that they are excited without crossing boundaries.

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♥ Co-topping Play session
One partner submits, and the other conspires with me to create a unique scene in my dungeon. This option is a fun way for a newly exploring dominant to gain experience and confidence with play techniques. Also, for those who have been playing for some time, it helps to see different ways of approaching play, tricks, and procedures.

While my play can be intense, my demeanor is always playful and fun, and I love working with a new “partner in crime.”

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♥ Double Sub Play session
Both partners submit in the scene. I have many mischievous ways to use both subs in the dungeon, including, but not limited to, the his and hers “forced pleasure collection.”

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♥ Take one of my small group classes
A fun and economical way is to join one of my classes or discussions, which I offer several times a month at my dungeon. The groups are small, and the atmosphere is inviting. Topics and skills vary, but all levels of experience are welcome. The classes are taught in English.

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Testimonials

The first little collaring ritual did it for me. Surrendering to you came very naturally to me, and it happened just like that, right when you took the lead. This was a new experience for me, and a very positive one. I think the game of trust, surrender, and vulnerability really worked, and that opened a whole new world for me.

We were both very much impressed by both your skills and your professionalism. I liked your style of domination from the beginning till the very end, and I find this really amazing for a first encounter. I think I learned more of what a session is all about in this single session than in all the previous ones together. And yes, the chemicals do their work. Back home and still in a euphoric state, I wanted to catch the next train to Paris for an appointment. So yes, you are inside my head, just like you told me.

As you know, my wife always likes these little encounters with mistresses, but this time, she really brought some of the skills and attitudes home—not only in the bedroom but also in her professional life. She seems to be more confident and stronger than before. How about that? It looks like kink can be healing after all!

-L and B

Testimonials

Visiting Domina M is the best thing that ever happened to us !
We were struggling to bloom as a couple, coping with fantasies that were definitely not aligned.

My husband is deeply into BDSM whereas I am definitely a vanilla-type of girl.

After a lot of talking and convincing, I accepted to visit Domina M and I am greatly thankful to her for it was a wonderful experience that we did not regret. Domina M is welcoming, open-minded, and so careful and understanding about her clients’ mindset and personality. She knows how to create a delightful environment and manages to make you feel confortable in a second. The long discussion that preceded the session was just perfect to understand everyone’s expectations and to express our potential (in my case, definite !) scares or hesitations…

Domina M managed to focus on my needs, as the Dominant, and to convey the fun and playful part of the BDSM action, respecting our psychological boundaries and physical limitations.
At the end of our sessions, we had a nice « aftercare » chat, allowing us to explain our feelings and thoughts about the play. That is really useful to unwind and to move safely onto the next session.

So, really, without a doubt, Domina M is a great, trustworthy professional and a wonderful human being, and we cannot recommend her enough to any couple who still hesitates to cross that line.

Testimonials

My partner and I had been searching for a Mistress to work with us as a pair, for what we had begun to call ‘Domination by proxy’.

In the UK this was proving to be elusive. We frequently visit Paris and decided to expand our search.

To say that our initial encounter with Domina M, surpassed our expectations would be unfair, as our excitement post the session was palpable. It was clear from the very beginning that she had taken the time to understand not only what we were seeking as a couple, but also as individuals

(something that can be a complex thing to discern), to create the beginning of what we hope will be a long and pleasurably deviant relationship.

From my own personal perspective, beyond that of the encounter with my partner, I felt very much a part of the session, not simply there as a voyeur, and I have subsequently talked with Domina M about being given guidance and instruction on the art of Domination.

~ C and R

If you can’t see me in Paris, I have some suggestions for the USA—Damiana Chi in Los Angeles, or (my mentor, herself!) Simone Justice in New York. Both of these dominatrices are not only living legends, but have achieved postgraduate degrees in behavioural psychology and sexology.