A recent conversation on a forum about professional dominatrices I frequent discussed whether AI Femdom was the future or not. I couldn’t help but pipe in with my opinion. I am obviously not a big fan, but it has its merits. A forum post isn’t the place for a thousand-word essay on the pros and cons of AI use, but fortunately, I have my platform to expand on my ideas.

Uses of AI Femdom for the Dominant: Pros and cons

Writing copy

I am not quite a purist in this one or an “AI vegan” as I have heard it called. I write my text in Grammarly, which we are all thankful for; otherwise, you would be experiencing my writing as a long run-on sentence. I communicate with a lack of appropriate commas. We are all happy that I use a grammar checker to add the punctuation I would usually miss. So all my text is my own thoughts with a super spell checker, which does make me look more clever than perhaps I am, but there you have it.

Like many people of this era, who write thousands of words a week, I have considered using AI to fill out the endless descriptions of gear, travel updates, and Instagram captions. A new “Complete with AI” button appears with each new app, some paid, some for free. Perhaps I am just not very good at prompts, but every time I read something generated by AI it is so out of step with how I write and the ideas I try to express, I feel it’s worse than not having a caption or a longer post at all.

I want to express my thoughts and ideas, not the generic ramblings of an AI Femdom bot. My goal for all my online “M” presence is to connect with like-minded players and hopefully to meet them in my Paris/Luxembourg/Cannes dungeon. Perhaps an onslaught of Femdom AI slop would bring a revolving door of paying subs into my playspace, but it sounds kind of like an empty experience. Also, I like my thoughts and ideas to be “seen.” I may take some pride in the fact that AI cannot emulate me.

Screening clients

At this point, I find it difficult to put my faith in something with “squishy” patterns like AI. In my opinion, there needs to be consistency, but an extra sense of when to be a little flexible and what the red flags are. Given the fluctuation in Large Language models’ algorithms, I’m uncomfortable with the choices and changes they would make in the background.

I am currently working on forms with dynamic questions to help guide potential subs if they are right for me, but this won’t be AI. I’ll be using the same program I used to create my “What Type of Submissive are you?” quiz. My 30 years of negotiating with submissives and the “common” questions and possible directions of the conversation dictate the direction and flow of the form, not an AI model.

Evaluating clients and risk tolerance

I recently saw it proposed to use AI to evaluate a submissive’s requests, tolerance, and the needed risk to achieve the best experience.

Even if this ever becomes possible. I hate this idea. GAWD, I hate this idea.

What is my job if not to solve you as the puzzle sitting before me? The thing I love most about being a dominatrix is unlocking the inner desires of a person and bringing the dark to light. Using my knowledge, experience, talent, and intuition to read my submissive is the passion that keeps growing and evolving as a professional domina.

I haven’t spent 30 years being my own boss to let AI dictate what I do with no creative input—hard pass.

Virtual sessions

In a way, this appeals to me, as well as many of my colleagues. I find it challenging to engage in a 10-minute conversation with someone I have no prior history with. I feel a little too like a dancing fetish monkey catering and changing to each call. So I rarely do it. Why not create an M-Bot FemBot? But then again, why would anyone want to talk to my particular brand of bot? If you were to hang a photocopied photo on your wall, which one would it be?

Which brings me to what the submissive can experience from AI.

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AI Femdom for the submissive

Self discovery

Something AI can do well is ask questions that make you think. There can be a positive conversation in private about your interests and how to express them. It’s not always easy to find someone to talk to about kink and fetishes. AI can be an objective and nonjudgmental way to explore your thoughts.

It’s also important to understand the limitations of AI here. It’s not an authority on Femdom, nor much of anything beyond what it scrapes off the internet. Keep the questions in the context of how they make you feel. Be wary of advice, recommendations, or outright directions. Only use AI to help you find your own conclusions. Don’t take its word as truth with a capital “T.”

Exploration

Again, cautioning that AI is not an authority. I have to reiterate that the knowledge comes from scraping the internet. What percentage of the internet do you think is accurate? How much is trolling? How much is just wrong?

With this to guide you, consider asking AI if you are ready to see a professional and what activities you might explore. Your fantasies sometimes are only an appointment away.

Desire fulfillment

Yes, of course, you are seeking desire fulfillment with AI Femdom. We have already seen it with several AI companions, so why not with Femdom?

Like regular old pornography, I think it can be a vital outlet to fulfill desires with some independence. Also, like porn, I have to emphasize, it’s not realistic–it’s not real. I already spend a lot of time explaining. While I can, technically, recreate a scenario depicted in pornography, you won’t experience it the way you might think in reality. I can’t fully express how much energy I use towards walking back novices from their intense fantasies. Walk before you can run, even if you think about running an ultramarathon each night.

Is AI Femdom still Femdom? I ask this when something is designed to keep your attention. Yes, it is incredible how well it knows you, but, in all honesty, if it’s all catering to you, is it your fantasy to serve or to be served? I’m far from a totalitarian dominatrix, but even still, it’s difficult for me to find any romance or grace when I feel it is not about losing yourself in serving women, but serving yourself. It makes it challenging to create a world of suspended disbelief for someone who is accustomed to completely catered fiction.

Somewhat of a conclusion for the future of AI Femdom

My fellow Americans might remember cereal commercials from years ago that proudly claimed “A part of a complete breakfast,” which is so funny in retrospect. Sugary cereals don’t have much in the way of nutrients, so one could eat them for breakfast–if one ate them with eggs, toast, fruit, etc. It wasn’t supposed to be the only thing for breakfast, but it commonly was.

Like a big bowl of Cocoa Puffs, AI is really good at hitting dopamine triggers with little effort. And like a big bowl of Cocoa Puffs, the shortcut leaves you feeling undernourished not long after. There is a lot of satisfaction in creating something that is me, and a lot of satisfaction in building connections with another person; this makes the human experience worthwhile.