Bondage in Paris
Bondage Will Set You Free
Dominatrix M, Bondage Rigger
I love opening up this part of my mind. I use my brain’s spatial recognition portion to plan where to place each piece of rope, leather, latex, or metal. From this thought process, I connect myself to your physicality. I watch your skin react, breathing, and responses and consider that for each proceeding restraint.
My most accessible and versatile bondage craft is rope work. I usually choose hemp rope for its strength and feel, but I also utilize other natural fiber ropes and scarves for a bit of a flourish. Michelangelo carved his sculptures emerging out of the marble as if he were freeing the forms from the excess marble. I watch how your body moves and rests and lay the ropes to free you from your excess mental burden.
“She was no longer free? Yes! thank God, she was no longer free. But she was light, a nymph on clouds, a fish in water, lost in happiness.”
― Pauline Réage, Story of O
SSometimes, a lot of times, actually, you can’t sit still. You roll your list of projects over and over in your mind. You play that conversation you had, or you need to have, on a thought loop without end. You live in your head, and it feels like you are living entirely behind your eyes and controlling your body as a separate entity. Your sexual frustration comes from not being able to relax your mind enough to feel your body. Let bondage be your escape to mind and body connection.
Losing control of your body allows you to regain your senses, your sexuality, and the eroticism of the moment. An additional tactile or olfactory stimulation adds to your excitement. Do you desire the soft yet firm grip of hemp ropes? Maybe the intensity of latex pressed close to your skin heightens your experience? Perhaps the idea of a heavy blanket and the potent smell of a leather sleep sack float in your dreams. If that is not enough, metal collars, cuffs, and helmets lock you into submission.
At the beginning of the session, your mind races even faster with each addition of restraint and tightness—faster and faster—until . . . You dive into helplessness. The high-functioning area of your brain comes to terms with the fact that there is nothing you can do, and it simply shuts off and goes to sleep. You are still aware, of course, but in a Zen state and present. Your breathing and heart rate relax, and you become very, very cognizant of every inch of your body.
Sensory Deprivation/Sensory Overload
Deprivation and overload may sound like opposites, but in my sessions, they are sister experiences. The more restricted you are, the more heightened your other senses become, enhancing the mind/body connection.
The Many Paths of Bondage
Straps and Cuffs
Simple, comfortable, and effective leather cuffs and straps used to attach you to something or even yourself get the job done and often leave enough access on the body for several types of play.
Hoods
Place your fingertips on either side of your nose and under your eyes. With very little pressure and no restrictions, you feel closed in. It doesn’t take much to envelop you in lycra, leather, or latex psychological bliss.
gags
I use an array of different gags for different purposes, ball gags, bit gags, dental gags, penis gags, ropes, and scarves. Each has unique properties in tactile experience, psychological representation, and rigidity.
Blindfolds
Removing your sight forces you to focus on your other senses and puts you squarely in the moment. It is a simple but effective device to help you begin the process of being submissive to me.
Harnesses
Snug on your body, harnesses give you the feeling of restriction on their own but also can be conveniently attached to bondage points.
Shibari
Japanese for “to tie,” Shibari is a restrictive and beautiful method of tying the body. Different ties work for everyone, but suspension will require a certain level of fitness and flexibility.
Damsel in Distress Western Style Bondage
Just like Bettie Page, Penelope Pitstop, and every pin-up or kidnapping trope, Western-style bondage is simple and comfortable columns of rope. It is quick, easy, and effective.
Mummifycation
You can be wrapped head to toe in clingfilm and cinched tight with leather belts, which add extra confinement. For a fetishist, instead of clingfilm, I might use gossamer nylon wrapping.
Sleepsacks
Quicker and more elaborate than mummification, a sleep sack envelopes you in leather or latex sensations. Higher-end sleep sacks have opening points to apply stimulation to your nipples, genitals, and/or ass.
Straightjackets
Straight jackets, in canvas, leather, and latex, completely bind the arms while exposing the legs for suspension or other games.
Metal
Think beyond the cheap, fuzzy handcuffs you see as kinky tropes in movies; I use high-quality steel shackles, mitts, collars, and helmets. The sturdy devices are well crafted with comfort–no sharp edges, no pinching, but they are not for the faint of heart. You will be completely immobile.
Vac-bed
Often on bucket lists but also too intense for most to endure more than 20 minutes, the VacBed is an icon of bondage fetish. Unfortunately most VacBeds are fragile and need to be repaired–a lot.
Suspension
Fly away from the mundane world. After years of practicing bondage, I am entirely comfortable lifting you off the ground to float in submission.
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