Bondage in Paris
Bondage Will Set You Free
Dominatrix M, Bondage Rigger
I love opening up this part of my mind. I use my brain’s spatial recognition portion to plan where to place each piece of rope, leather, latex, or metal. From this thought process, I connect myself to your physicality. I watch your skin react, breathing, and responses and consider that for each proceeding restraint.
My most accessible and versatile bondage craft is rope work. I usually choose hemp rope for its strength and feel, but I also utilize other natural fiber ropes and scarves for a bit of a flourish. Michelangelo carved his sculptures emerging out of the marble as if he were freeing the forms from the excess marble. I watch how your body moves and rests and lay the ropes to free you from your excess mental burden.
“She was no longer free? Yes! thank God, she was no longer free. But she was light, a nymph on clouds, a fish in water, lost in happiness.”
― Pauline Réage, Story of O
Bondage Meditation
On the other side of the spectrum is the quiet floating feeling of meditative bondage. We can do this independently or in conjunction with a sensory experience. Longer sessions are better suited for bondage meditation. Like an extended Yin Yoga session, I will bind you into a secure position and let you experience it for a longer time so you can mentally drift away. Before you become too uncomfortable or drift off to sleep, I adjust your bondage and position so you can experience a different method of mental freedom.
ometimes, a lot of times, actually, you can’t sit still. You roll your list of projects over and over in your mind. You play that conversation you had, or you need to have, on a thought loop without end. You live in your head, and it feels like you are living entirely behind your eyes and controlling your body as a separate entity. Your sexual frustration comes from not being able to relax your mind enough to feel your body. Let bondage be your escape to mind and body connection.
Losing control of your body allows you to regain your senses, your sexuality, and the eroticism of the moment. An additional tactile or olfactory stimulation adds to your excitement. Do you desire the soft yet firm grip of hemp ropes? Maybe the intensity of latex pressed close to your skin heightens your experience? Perhaps the idea of a heavy blanket and the potent smell of a leather sleep sack float in your dreams. If that is not enough, metal collars, cuffs, and helmets lock you into submission.
At the beginning of the session, your mind races even faster with each addition of restraint and tightness—faster and faster—until . . . You dive into helplessness. The high-functioning area of your brain comes to terms with the fact that there is nothing you can do, and it simply shuts off and goes to sleep. You are still aware, of course, but in a Zen state and present. Your breathing and heart rate relax, and you become very, very cognizant of every inch of your body.
Sensory Deprivation/Sensory Overload
Deprivation and overload may sound like opposites, but in my sessions, they are sister experiences. The more restricted you are, the more heightened your other senses become, enhancing the mind/body connection. In this type of session, I am laser-focused on you and see each move as a seduction that brings you further into the scene. Adding a strap here and tightening a rope there, I watch as your body reveals where it needs to be controlled most and pounce on it.
As I progressively take away your ability to move or struggle, I begin to add increasingly intense stimuli. I drag metal talons across your back or stomach. I slip a vibrator over sensitive bits that peak through the restraints. I attach electrodes to trapped flesh. A milking machine slips over your penis, exciting you more than you think you can handle, but you are entirely helpless to do anything but accept your fate. First, it is one or two sensory experiences, and then it piles on to all of them until you let go of everything rattling around in your mind.
The Many Paths of Bondage
Straps and Cuffs
Simple, comfortable, and effective leather cuffs and straps attach you to something or yourself. They get the job done and often leave enough access to the body for several types of play. If you want to experience a little bit of bondage or a lot but quickly, straps and cuffs are a perfect option.
Hoods
Place your fingertips on either side of your nose and under your eyes. With very little pressure and no restrictions, you feel closed in. While not bound or restrained, you feel more submissive and depersonalized. You are in your body, but it is somehow disconnected from you. It doesn’t take much to envelop you in lycra, leather, or latex psychological bliss.
gags
I use an array of different gags for different purposes, ball gags, bit gags, dental gags, penis gags, funnel gags, ropes, and scarves. Each has unique properties in tactile experience, psychological representation, and rigidity. Some hold you wide open so I can insert whatever strikes my fancy into your mouth. Some prevent you from speaking or breathing without my approval. Some stuff your mouth because you must always be orally stimulated.
Blindfolds
Removing your sight forces you to focus on your other senses and puts you squarely in the moment. It is a simple but effective device to help you begin the process of being submissive to me. Without your sense of sight, you are extra vulnerable with the nervous anticipation of what may or may not happen next. You have no way of knowing.
Harnesses
Snug on your body, harnesses give you the feeling of restriction on their own but also can be conveniently attached to bondage points. Generally, it is in leather. I also have latex harnesses or can easily make one out of rope.
Shibari
Japanese for “to tie,” Shibari is a restrictive and beautiful body restraining method. Different ties work for different people, but suspension requires a certain level of fitness and flexibility. You can experience the beauty and restriction of Shibari/Kinkabu, but not everyone can experience suspension. I take my style from the many experts I have studied, my local classes, and the rope jams I attend.
Damsel in Distress Western Style Bondage
Just like Bettie Page, Penelope Pitstop, and every pin-up or kidnapping trope, Western-style bondage is simple and comfortable columns of rope. It is quick, easy, and effective. This style of bondage was the first type of rope bondage I learned from Mistress Georgia many years ago, and I still love it.
Mummifycation
You can be wrapped head to toe in clingfilm and cinched tight with leather belts, which add extra confinement. For a fetishist, instead of clingfilm, I might use gossamer nylon wrapping. The advantage I see in mummification bondage is how customizable it is. The wrapping is unique to your body type. I can tear open whatever part is covering the part of the body to which I want access.
Sleepsacks
Quicker and more elaborate than mummification, a sleep sack envelopes you in leather or latex sensations. Higher-end sleep sacks have opening points to apply stimulation to your nipples, genitals, and/or ass. I also like these because I can progressively make them tighter or even suspend you.
Straightjackets
Straight jackets, in canvas, leather, and latex, completely bind the arms while exposing the legs for suspension or other games. Perhaps they have memories of asylums in movies or comic books, and that elicits some taboo fantasies for you. You can thrash around but never get out.
Metal
Think beyond the cheap, fuzzy handcuffs you see as kinky tropes in movies; I use high-quality steel shackles, mitts, collars, and helmets. The sturdy devices are well crafted with comfort–no sharp edges, no pinching, but they are not for the faint of heart. You will be completely immobile.
Caging
What better way to be a prisoner of your passion than to be an actual prisoner in my puppy cage? I can back you in and lock your neck in the metal collar. You will be helpless and ripe for teasing, especially if you have a foot fetish.
Vac-Bed
Often on bucket lists but also too intense for most to endure more than 20 minutes, the VacBed is an icon of bondage fetish. Unfortunately most VacBeds are fragile and need to be repaired–a lot. Please check if mine is operational if you want to do this. Unfortunately, I only get a few uses from it before something happens.
Suspension
Fly away from the mundane world. After years of practicing bondage, I am entirely comfortable lifting you off the ground to float in submission. The simplest way is my leather “sit swing,” which resembles a parachute harness. I can make this option very intense for those who want that experience. Otherwise, there are body bags and the suspended platform to sweep you off of your feet.
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