Everybody has a first time, and now is your chance to finally dive into your first session. Femdom is an exciting and exotic world, and until recently, it has existed only in the shadows of society, accessible only to those who knew where to find it. Being a newbie to the BDSM world, how do you approach your first time seeing a professional dominatrix?
Today, kink is talked about in the open and easily found with simple internet searches. BDSM dynamics are increasingly featured in popular movies and TV shows. Of course, you are curious and want to know more. But where do you start? Is it even right for you? It’s so expensive; what even is a professional BDSM session?
I’ve created a permeant page as a Guide for Femdom Beginners. With almost 30 years of answering the questions and concerns of newcomers, I’ve compiled some essential things to know. You can also start with the Submissive Bill of Rights I wrote.
Before scheduling the appointment
Ask yourself what you expect to gain from a professional session. Create a list of your expectations. Are you fascinated by the cerebral adventure, or are you just horney and bored? What activities interest you, and what are your limits? At the same time, refrain from making an exact script to be followed that will take away from the flow of the play.
The day of the session
Ensure you get your usual amount of sleep and eat a regular diet. It’s not the best idea to walk out of a red-eye flight and right into a session. Refrain from any intoxicating substances or new medications. It makes it difficult for me to judge your body’s reactions.
Arrive showered and ready for adventure. I have everything prepared to receive you at my dungeon.
After the session
Sessions are intense. Even the most pleasurable experiences are exhausting. Continue to treat yourself to a nice meal and a restful night’s sleep.
What if I don’t know what I want for my first time?
Not knowing what you want does complicated things for me. BDSM psychologies and activities are so diverse and specialized for each unique session that it’s impossible to throw a dart in the dark and hit the bullseye. I’ve created some straightforward, lighter session suggestions for absolute beginners who might be experiencing decision fatigue and want the choices to be made for them. You still have to choose one of the six.
The Anal Explorer
A gentle introduction to anal games, always beginning lightly and progressing as I judge you are able.
Tie and Tease
It’s not the chains and whips type of domination you might see portrayed in the movies, but a different kind of psychological torment. You will be secured firmly but comfortably while I use a myriad of devices to stimulate and tease you.
Foot Fetish
If you find yourself attracted to boots, heels, sandals, stockings, pedicures, or bare soles, a foot fetish or a foot domination session might be for you. Dive deep into an hour of being smothered by your desire.
Schoolboy/Governess Role Play
Sometimes, a straight mistress/slave session seems a little too exotic, and you need something more down-to-earth. This type of role-play can explore softer spanking (over-the-knee hand spanking) and lighter humiliation, such as scolding, to give you a taste of kink.
Nurse/Patient Role Play
The most popular choice in recent years. A caring yet strict nurse makes you feel vulnerable yet cared for while being examined, prodded, and poked.
Pet Play
A part of the “gentle femdom” movement, this is a context where the submissive takes the role of a favored pet to be trained by the mistress. Taking on the mannerisms of a pony or puppy makes this type of play lighter and more whimsical than what one might see in the media.
Whether you decide to schedule your first appointment with me or know that someone else might be better suited for you, the guide for femdom beginners I have outlined will help you understand how to make the transition from fantasy to BDSM reality. If you’re curious to learn more than what’s provided in these quick overviews, be sure to check out the Femdom for Newbies page.
Ready to get started? You can block out your time in 3 minutes with my scheduling app.
American dominatrix in Paris bringing her specific style and three decades of experience to her adopted city with the best equipped BDSM dungeon in Paris and most of France.
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