English Speaking Dominatrix in Paris
Domina M’s Homebase, Paris France
Our First Tango in Paris
Just past the trendy BoBo restaurants of the 10th arrondissement, an austere building hides away on a side street. Its bland exterior cloaks the extraordinary BDSM potential inside. You tap in the entrance code and scramble up the plain stairs to my lair. You give yourself a little pep talk before you ring the bell to the dungeon. Even though you are nervous, you have done your research and anticipate the best femdom experience Paris has to offer. The door opens, and you are swept into a small, feminine, warm entryway. One step made a difference. One step inside, and you enter a world removed from the cold streets of Paris.
The palatable difference pleasantly disorientates you. You feel welcome and safe as you place your items on the hook provided. You are ushered to sit and talk in the proper dungeon. The BDSM dungeon is a feast for the eyes with displayed bondage and corporal equipment, including things you fear even asking about. You feel at ease in just moments, cocooned away from busy Parisian life. Your remaining nerves feel more like excited anticipation for your impending surrender.
Through the Looking Glass
I don’t want to give away too much, but I love it when you squirm as you adapt to my Parisian dungeon. It is adorable. I often relate a session to a roller coaster; it goes up and down. You can sometimes be scared, but you know you will walk away with a rush and be perfectly safe. Of course, if you aren’t a little nervous in anticipation of the rollercoaster, it’s not a very interesting rollercoaster, is it? It may be my excuse to relish in your awkwardness. It’s part of the experience, nonetheless.
My favorite phrases at this stage are: “I’ve never said that out loud. I’ve never told anyone that, not even my psychologist.” I am pleased you are ready to open up and begin our journey together. I am your Virgil in Loubutions and am prepared to guide you through a bespoke Inferno, Purgatorio, and Paradiso. At this moment, I know that no matter how long you are in my dungeon, I will live in your head forever.
I lead you to the restroom changing area. You digest the conversation and your circumstances, stash the remaining balance in the tribute box, use the Japanese toilet, wash your hands, drink some bottled water set out for you, or even take a quick shower, drying off with fluffy bath-sheet towels. Completely undressed, embracing your new role as a naked submissive, you walk into the dungeon, knowing that the first step is your consent to give all your power over to me.
Once in the dungeon, I begin my rituals to establish a connection, and the power exchange starts. You first notice I am not a mean, shouting, scolding mistress but deliberate in my playfulness. You experience my control as soothing, freeing, and nonjudgemental. I mindfully craft everything about this moment: the soft music, the diffused mood lighting, and the rubber mats, which are clean and easy on your knees. You can no longer differentiate between nervousness and excitement, so you let yourself slip down the rabbit hole.
What’s on the Other side?
I designed and built my Paris BDSM dungeon, Studio Xéme, explicitly for my femdom knowledge and to highlight my kink specialties/fetishes. I have an impressive collection of strong, sturdy, and comfortable bondage gear. Bondage goes with everything! My recent addition of the Dominator Spanking Bench makes for a pegging/milking/tease and denial station where I can activate many sensations at once. And not to be forgotten, my accumulated medical skills are ready to be tested in the exam chair.
You are welcome to read more about these specialties on their respective pages, where I elaborate.
But these are just a few colors of paint I use in my art of BDSM sessions. Here, I also have three foundations of my BDSM skill set and the activities associated with them. As with paint, choosing pigments from each pot is the most interesting part of making a beautiful new color. Don’t be afraid to mix and match the best concepts for you. Then, you may explore parts you never thought you would before.
“My life is very monotonous,” the fox said. “I hunt chickens; men hunt me. All the chickens are just alike, and all the men are just alike. And, in consequence, I am a little bored. But if you tame me, it will be as if the sun came to shine on my life. I shall know the sound of a step that will be different from all the others. Other steps send me hurrying back underneath the ground. Yours will call me, like music, out of my burrow. And then look: you see the grain-fields down yonder? I do not eat bread. Wheat is of no use to me. The wheat fields have nothing to say to me. And that is sad. But you have hair that is the color of gold. Think how wonderful that will be when you have tamed me! The grain, which is also golden, will bring me back the thought of you. And I shall love to listen to the wind in the wheat . . .”
The fox gazed at the little prince, for a long time.
“Please–tame me!” he said.
Le Petit Prince Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Specialties offered in my Paris dungeon
Medical Fetish
You walk into the clinic, calm on the outside but vibrating internally with anticipation. Why do medical offices make you so nervous? This is for your own good, after all, but so many things could happen. Will the doctor be kind or mean? You hope she is the best for your condition, and perhaps enduring the humiliating exams and uncomfortable procedures will be made easier with the reassuring presence of the nurse’s starched, vintage white uniform–a quick flash of classic silk stockings would go a long way as well.
Bondage Domina
Sometimes, a lot of times, actually, you can’t sit still. You roll your list of projects over and over in your mind. You play that conversation you had, or you need to have, on a thought loop without end. You live in your head, and it feels like you are living entirely behind your eyes and controlling your body as a separate entity. Your sexual frustration comes from not being able to relax your mind enough to feel your body. Let bondage be your escape to mind and body connection.
Pegging and Anal Games
Nature played a little joke on you. She gave you a potent G-spot but then tucked it away in a taboo place. Thus, you both fear and crave being penetrated. Perhaps your sense of fear makes crossing that boundary even more tantalizing. The taboo draws you into the idea of being pegged. It’s something secret you would never discuss in polite company or even close friends. You’ve never been conventional, though. Taboos may frighten you, but they frighten you towards them, not away.
Sensation play
The classic sadomasochism games, but in my hands, pain is not for its own sake. I transform your suffering into a cocktail of adrenal bliss, and I create it with a smile. These are some of the activities that elicit this type of response. Everyone will have different preferences. You can choose what you like, and we will ignore what does not speak to you.
- Cock and ball torment
- Corporal punishment
- Electroplay
- Nipple torment
- Over-the-knee spanking
- Tickling
- Trampling
Fetish focused play
Often, the smell of leather or latex or the quick glimpse of a boot heel or stocking helps heighten the BDSM experience. Your fetishes are a powerful trigger to seduce you deeper into subspace. Perhaps your fetishes are so powerful they can be the focus of the whole session. These fetishes look like this:
- Boots
- Heels
- Latex
- Leather
- Pedicured feet
- PVC
- Shoes
- Stockings
Gender play
Sometimes, you feel free to be a different person in session, an alternate personality that appears as you leave the constraints of your enforced gender roles. There are many levels to experience. You may want to go all the way, or you may feel transported in simple panties.
- Complete transformation
- Corset bondage
- Light crossdressing
- Panties and stockings
Psychological play
All my play is psychological at some level. You may want to focus on more mental games. Each of these things is very personal, and we will need to discuss them in person when we meet to refine my techniques to your psyche.
- Humiliation
- Masturbation instruction
- Power dynamic
- Roleplay
- Tease and denial