Pegging in Paris
Strap-on Play and other Anal Games
Do Women Enjoy Pegging?
What’s in it for the dominant woman “strapping one on”? Not long ago, I polled my fellow strap-on-wielding mistresses about what they most enjoyed: the power exchange, the sensation, gender play, or pleasure for their partner. Not to skirt the direct question, but I appreciate all four aspects in their different ways.
Like the most popular result, I find the ultimate mental enjoyment in the power exchange. My true fetish is dominance. I know you are not often this submissive and exposed. I take immense mental pleasure in being a strap-on mistress and, during this play, like to indulge the fantasy that, being inside of you, you are now my possession.
You might not know that although the apparatus itself feels nothing, I feel it as I use it—not as you do, but as a pleasurable feeling nonetheless. The friction from the strap itself is especially highlighted if vibration is involved. The strap is quite an intimate device for connecting.
I, too, feel constrained by gender roles. I love being a cis woman, girlie-girl, but the opportunity to be the one penetrating is thrilling and decadent. I never desire to be “the man.” I eschew dildos that resemble penises for colorful, sleek silicone dildos. I prefer to transcend gender roles and become the dominator.
And yes, I love the pleasure you get from anal play. I am fond of saying, “An aroused man is a malleable man.” I adore the craft, the build-up, and the discovery of each of my submissives. Everyone is different, and finding the key that unlocks your excitement is the treasure I seek.
“Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.”
-Oscar Wilde
Nature played a little joke on you. She gave you a potent G-spot but then tucked it away in a taboo place. Thus, you both fear and crave being penetrated. Perhaps your sense of fear makes crossing that boundary even more tantalizing. The taboo draws you into the idea of being pegged. It’s something secret you would never discuss in polite company or even close friends. You’ve never been conventional, though. Taboos may frighten you, but they frighten you towards them, not away.
You seek someone you can trust to guide you through the taboo. Nothing is more intimate than someone else inside of you, and you want to ensure you play with the right person. You want to experience the hedonism, nurturing, and submission that come with anal play. Because of the fear, craving, and taboo, you seek a dominant woman who can read you and expand on your experiences.
The Alchemy of The Dominatrix and the Prostrate
What is the reward for running towards your fears? The prostate orgasm. That moment where your mind whites out. If not the orgasm itself, the fantastic extra edging creates intense teasing. If you don’t go entirely to that blinding orgasm, you’ll spend an incredible amount of time right at the edge. If you can unlock that prostate orgasm, then you have the potential to endure multiple, repeated orgasms. Either way, you will fall into a helpless state of “subspace,” far away from the boring, mundane world.
Give yourself over to the pleasure of submitting to a dominant strap-on mistress.
The Build-Up
Even the most experienced players need to start small before they go big. I often enjoy prolonging the anticipation with teasing gloved fingers and heaping helpings of lubricant. For example, the most practical and comfortable position is bent over on a spanking bench. If you are feeling a little more adventurous, or perhaps you need visual stimulation as well, a gyno chair or sex-swing harness works well. Also, standing can be a comfortable and exciting way to receive a strap-on. As I am pretty tall, it may be logistically challenging for me, but we can work it out.
Why not try all of these experiences? Well, you should. Remember, you might want to try them all over a few sessions. Unless you are used to three hours of anal play, often one to two hours is enough. These types of sessions are usually quite intense.
Tools for the Strap-on Mistress:
Gloved fingers
Fingers are the first step in exploring anal penetration and a very intimate one. I love the physicality of my actual body being inside of yours. You may have fantasies of large strap-on dildos or the relentless pounding of the f**king machine, but this is an essential step in the beginning for our connection and your comfort in relaxing.
Anal beads
Beads come in many sizes, but even the small ones do the job. Each “bead” or ridge provokes a little jolt to the prostate and rectum. Sometimes, to my delight, making you jump or shiver. I also like to add a vibrator to enhance the feeling inside of you without being too abrupt.
Enemas
Before any anal play, you will need a good clean-out. You can do it yourself before the session, but the Japanese toilet/bidet at my dungeon will suffice for most sessions. There is nothing wrong with incorporating enemas into our games. Many find the gentle filling exciting. I can incorporate vibrating nozzles for an extra level of excitement. Remember that enemas take significant time because I expect you to expel the contents and shower before we resume playing.
Anal Hooks
Metal anal hooks come in various sizes to fit your insides, but all have a curved attachment to keep it and you in place when incorporated into bondage. The appearance of the anal hook might seem cold, harsh, and rigid, but it quickly warms up to your body temperature and efficiently conducts the vibrations of a massage wand.
Anal Plugs
Anal plugs work well to dilate your opening while not penetrating too deep. Often, they work better to “stay put” with their flared base between the stem and plug to promote the gentle relaxing of the rectal muscles with increasingly larger plugs.
Inflatable Plugs
As with regular anal plugs, inflatable plugs help gently to open you up by inflating after insertion to provide pressure and dilation without much pain. Since they inflate after insertion, they fill you up much more than other insertables without traumatizing the rectum. I enjoy these as you can have an immense feeling while not experiencing the fatigue of repeated penetration.
Prostate Massagers
A smaller type anal plug curved to stimulate the prostate gland. Remember that secret g-spot, hidden away? Prostate massagers are a type of plug meant to stimulate just that spot. Instead of penetrating deep inside of you, I put this device in the nerve-filled area at the root of your penis.
Prostate Vibrators
I am a fan of the Lelo prostate vibrator with a remote control. It adds quite an extra kick compared to the standard prostate massager/plug, but I can also move about your body while I manipulate the vibrations with one hand.
Electric prostrate stimulators
A special prostate toy that connects to a TENS unit arouses the prostate and/or the perineum with electric currents varying from curious tingles to cruel pinches. Electricity adds an interesting element to me, who loves to ride the edge of pleasure and pain.
Electric Anal Probes
This probe is a metal electrified ball at the end of a flexible stem that can efficiently work its way much deeper inside you than other electrical toys. The deeper it travels inside your colon, the subtler the electrical sensation becomes until it is not tangible, but your body is still aware of and reacts to it.
Electric dildos
Also connected to a TENS unit, this insertable causes the muscles inside the rectum to contract involuntarily. The feeling is pleasant but focuses on your loss of bodily control. As I stated before, dominance is my main fetish, and taking control is my mental orgasm.
Silicon dildos of all sizes
I prefer high-quality silicon dildos for their flexibility, simultaneous sturdiness, and color possibilities. My tool chest has various sizes and shapes to match my mood and bottom’s needs. As a personal preference, if I am going to strap on a dildo, I choose functional shapes over “life-like penis” ones. I identify as a woman with a strap-on who pegs a man. I don’t have penis envy. My favorite brand, made in France, is called Strap-on-Me.
Vibrating Dildos
I use silicon dildos with vibrating adaptors, not the brutal plastic vibrators one might see in a cheap toy shop. Being more supple, these versatile vibrators can gently massage your outside and inside parts.
Strap-on Harnesses
I have several variations of harnesses: lingerie with a secret agenda, nylon, leather, and an impressive latex harness. It all depends on my pegging mood. I enjoy the fascination and anticipation you have on your face as I attach the strap-on dildo and pull the harness around my hips.
Fisting
Fisting is the ultimate in erotic connection and opening your body up for me. It’s the gloved fingers experience that comes full circle. In the beginning, there were gentle, probing fingers that teased you, causing you to desire more. Now, the whole hand enters you and moves around. You feel me manipulate you like a puppet. You truly know what it is to have me deep inside of you.
F**king Machine
The machine may penetrate slowly or with rapid thrusts, but it does not stop. It adds an unrelenting experience while freeing me up to multiply your sensations.
It is a different experience that can go fast or slow but never stops. The machine is pleasurable but uncaring and merciless. When you have an insatiable itch to be used, this is the tool to make it happen.
Ready to Explore a Session with a Strap on Mistress in Paris?
I keep these tools in my Paris dungeon and await you. Not only do I have these things for kinky anal play, but I have clean, sturdy, and comfortable dungeon furniture for you to experience my toys in several different and exciting positions.
Need to speak more before you leap into pegging? Schedule a consultation to discuss things safely from your place to mine.