What type of BDSM bottom are you? There are so many flavors and situations in a kinky dynamic it can be confusing. Indeed, not all types are going to appeal to you, and when you see some dynamics, you might think that BDSM is not at all for you, and yet other depictions interest you. One of the best things you can do before meeting with a dominant is to know more about who you are and where your psychological interest begins. You can start some kinky exploring right here in just a few minutes.
One of the things that has kept me drawn to being a professional dominant over the decades is just how diverse these psychologies are. Sure, sometimes people develop kinks from trauma, but more often, it’s from a pleasant memory that just stays in one’s mind. Certainly, there isn’t a singular mindset or a “standard” session routine. When someone says, “Just do a typical play session for a beginner,” I am at a total loss. There is no such thing. In seeing some common archetypes, you can better understand how important it is to know yourself and communicate as such.
I’ve divided (and conquered!) four different BDSM bottom psychological approaches with included sub(hah!)-categories, all in a simple quiz for you to try. Of course, you will be a mix of the archetypes, and this is just my opinion from my anecdotal evidence. Consider it a fun way to level up your kinky self-awareness and get your wheels turning.
What kind of bottom are you?
Let’s play 20 questions!
Which one did you get?
Do you agree with the answer? Why or why not? This quiz is not scientific nor definitive, but a way to start a conversation. Post a comment with your result below.
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Fun quiz with unexpected questions. My quiz returned “slave”. I have fulfilled a variety of roles in my journey but I just wrote this week that I thought power exchange was my jam and the bridge lately left uncrossed. So very accurate for me.
Glad you liked it! I hope it helps people see there are so many different aspects to enjoy!
I got the fetishist. And I think in my case it’s pretty accurate.
Color me unsurprised! Hah!
Humiliation slave
Sissy
Human Toilet
Looks like the results you’d get if you asked the dommes i’ve served!
Awesome! Thanks for taking the quiz and sharing. It’s so interesting to see the different types of people.
It got me as a service sub and I’m definitely not that although I do what I’m told. I’m definitely submissive and also a masochist although I like taking the pain for the Domme and not the pain itself. But I need it.
Certainly there are nuances and cross overs, thank you for sharing that. I knew when I was writing it there would be people who didn’t fit into exactly one slot or another. It’s a conversation starter, for sure.
Service Sub. Yeah, I am. I’m now just called “slut” or “beast” by my longtime Mistress now. There is no role play, it is just what I am to Her, property to be used. During play she has taken me beyond my limits, within reason. I’m an exhibitionist for Her entertainment. She jokingly says, “You have too many privileges.” I do. I’ve also been her driver, mover, adviser in her vanilla biz. She’s my reason 2 exist….
Sounds like you have a wonderful relationship with your Mistress. I love how you describe her playful demeanor and how you work well together. What a great fit!
I got “fetishist,” which is maybe not inaccurate, but I was still a little surprised. But are the four categories “humiliation,” “sissy,” “toilet”? If so, then, yes, the most accurate.
Interesting. You are right not all the “mentalities” will line up the same with the (assumed) activities. That’s why it’s always important to talk to someone out of role. Thanks for sharing!
Fucking Brat. Accurate. Ha.
Hah! And this is exactly what a Brat would say.
I am a masochist, not service sub as per result 🙂
Thanks for quiz Madam.
Interesting. Could you be both? Nothing wrong with a maso who is extra considerate of his domina.
I got fetishist which seems accurate. The “not submissive in general but your triggers make you malleable “ and “the always looking for new adventures “ is totally accurate
Fetishist are fun and definitely ready for an adventure, especially with their sexy triggers. Thanks for commenting.
I was not really surprised to get „slave“ as an answer. However a nice quiz! I enjoyed it very much. In addition questions like these help to think about one self. Thanks!
Glad you liked it and it made you think!
I got Service Sub. Being that I have been exclusive to her for 9 years, that is accurate. Sessions are still fun and important, and full of fire and energy. But, as time has gone on – its more about each others well being. Thats pretty cool. And you know her from you alls early days in NYC!
Oh that is so nice to hear. Knowing your mistress for so long I can imagine it is a deep and precious relation.
First, thank you for creating the quiz and making it available for us to take! Great fun, and for me at least, some of the questions had more than 1 right answer. Like several others, I also got fetishist, although I feel as though I also have a strong maso streak as well to go along with that.
Again, thanks for giving us the opportunity to learn a little more about our kink.
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I think Masochists are a type of fetishist–just fetishists of pain. My opinion though.
I’d like to thank you for this great quiz, Domina M. My result is Service Sub. That is exactly what I am. I also would like to translate your quiz for my local community with your permission.
Oh that would be amazing. I’d love to see the translated quiz.
Thank you very much! I’ll translate it into Russian but I don’t how to be with texts within results at the end. I guess just try to get as much as I can passing the quiz.
It would be interesting to see how my opinion of bottom types translates to a different culture.
Got “fetishest” and that seems pretty accurate after reading some of the stuff under that heading.
Bondage bottom, masochist and fetishes all apply.
Interesting how accurate just 20 questions could be.
Thank you! Happy to have you around my part of the internet.
Thank you very much for this quiz, dear Mistress.
Very accurate for me as I got fetishist as a result.
And as you say, sessions are absolut, blissful vacations, from the time I hope on a train to when I get back home, and that counts half a day usually.